Tim and Christine are foster parents. That means they are a temporary safe haven for any foster child who is placed in their care. And any child placed in their care, is placed in the church body’s care. Some children stay weeks, others months. Most will be reunited with their biological families, others will not.
These children are very blessed to have the Stearns’ home for the time that they do. But these children are in somewhat of a state of limbo. They really never know just where they will end up. That unknown must be frightening to a child.

But we are not foster kids. God has no foster children. He has adopted us. We can cry out to Him,  “Abba, Daddy, Father!” and He will answer.

For as many as are led by the Spirit of God,
they are sons of God.
For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear;
but ye have received the Spirit of adoption,
whereby we cry, Abba Father.
The Spirit beareth witness with our spirit,
that we are the children of God
Romans 8:14, 15, 16

The safety foster kids experience while in the arms of Tim, Christine, Shelley, Danny, Nikole, Mike ( …or whomever may be caring for them at the moment) is wonderful, but only temporary. We, as sons and daughters of God, can experience permanent safety, love and inheritance.

The Spirit tells is so…and the Spirit tells us how.

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When I was a youngster, my mom seemed invincible to me. She mothered five kids and did so with relative ease (or so I thought). It never occurred to me how difficult being a parent was until I became one myself.
I can recall Mom taking us four girls grocery shopping with her. Inevitably we would act out a bit. One of us would be tugging on her sleeve constantly asking for some frivolous thing off of the shelf. She would try to hush us and continue shopping.
It never once occurred to me to lift up my mom’s heavy hands–I was too busy tugging them down in pursuit of what I wanted.
I have caught myself repeating that bad pattern in my adult life. It seems when I find someone strong I want to continually lean on them rather that see they, too, need a chance to lean.
My husband, my Pastors, my bosses–all strong individuals, but not invincible.

And it came to pass when Moses held up his hand,
that Israel prevailed;
and when he let down his hand,
Amalek prevailed.
But Moses’ hands were heavy;
and they took a stone and put it under him,
and he sat thereon;
and Aaron and Hur stayed up his hands,
the one on the one side,
and the other on the other side;
and his hands were steady until the going down.
Exodus 17:11,12

Lord, help me lift the hands that are heavy.

I found this story on a link off of the band Leeland’s blog.

It touched me and I hope it touches you.

Melinda Wright
Gainesville State players douse head coach Mark Williams in celebration.

They played the oddest game in high school football history last month down in Grapevine, Texas.

It was Grapevine Faith vs. Gainesville State School and everything about it was upside down. For instance, when Gainesville came out to take the field, the Faith fans made a 40-yard spirit line for them to run through.

Did you hear that? The other team’s fans?

They even made a banner for players to crash through at the end. It said, “Go Tornadoes!” Which is also weird, because Faith is the Lions.

“I WOULDN’T EXPECT ANOTHER PARENT TO TELL SOMEBODY TO HIT THEIR KIDS. BUT THEY WANTED US TO!”

It was rivers running uphill and cats petting dogs. More than 200 Faith fans sat on the Gainesville side and kept cheering the Gainesville players on—by name.

“I never in my life thought I’d hear people cheering for us to hit their kids,” recalls Gainesville’s QB and middle linebacker, Isaiah. “I wouldn’t expect another parent to tell somebody to hit their kids. But they wanted us to!”

And even though Faith walloped them 33-14, the Gainesville kids were so happy that after the game they gave head coach Mark Williams a sideline squirt-bottle shower like he’d just won state. Gotta be the first Gatorade bath in history for an 0-9 coach.

But then you saw the 12 uniformed officers escorting the 14 Gainesville players off the field and two and two started to make four. They lined the players up in groups of five—handcuffs ready in their back pockets—and marched them to the team bus. That’s because Gainesville is a maximum-security correctional facility 75 miles north of Dallas. Every game it plays is on the road.

This all started when Faith’s head coach, Kris Hogan, wanted to do something kind for the Gainesville team. Faith had never played Gainesville, but he already knew the score. After all, Faith was 7-2 going into the game, Gainesville 0-8 with 2 TDs all year. Faith has 70 kids, 11 coaches, the latest equipment and involved parents. Gainesville has a lot of kids with convictions for drugs, assault and robbery—many of whose families had disowned them—wearing seven-year-old shoulder pads and ancient helmets.

So Hogan had this idea. What if half of our fans—for one night only—cheered for the other team? He sent out an email asking the Faithful to do just that. “Here’s the message I want you to send:” Hogan wrote. “You are just as valuable as any other person on planet Earth.”

Some people were naturally confused. One Faith player walked into Hogan’s office and asked, “Coach, why are we doing this?”

And Hogan said, “Imagine if you didn’t have a home life. Imagine if everybody had pretty much given up on you. Now imagine what it would mean for hundreds of people to suddenly believe in you.”

Next thing you know, the Gainesville Tornadoes were turning around on their bench to see something they never had before. Hundreds of fans. And actual cheerleaders!

“I thought maybe they were confused,” said Alex, a Gainesville lineman (only first names are released by the prison). “They started yelling ‘DEE-fense!’ when their team had the ball. I said, ‘What? Why they cheerin’ for us?’”

It was a strange experience for boys who most people cross the street to avoid. “We can tell people are a little afraid of us when we come to the games,” says Gerald, a lineman who will wind up doing more than three years. “You can see it in their eyes. They’re lookin’ at us like we’re criminals. But these people, they were yellin’ for us! By our names!”

Maybe it figures that Gainesville played better than it had all season, scoring the game’s last two touchdowns. Of course, this might be because Hogan put his third-string nose guard at safety and his third-string cornerback at defensive end. Still.

After the game, both teams gathered in the middle of the field to pray and that’s when Isaiah surprised everybody by asking to lead. “We had no idea what the kid was going to say,” remembers Coach Hogan. But Isaiah said this: “Lord, I don’t know how this happened, so I don’t know how to say thank You, but I never would’ve known there was so many people in the world that cared about us.”

And it was a good thing everybody’s heads were bowed because they might’ve seen Hogan wiping away tears.

As the Tornadoes walked back to their bus under guard, they each were handed a bag for the ride home—a burger, some fries, a soda, some candy, a Bible and an encouraging letter from a Faith player.

The Gainesville coach saw Hogan, grabbed him hard by the shoulders and said, “You’ll never know what your people did for these kids tonight. You’ll never, ever know.”

And as the bus pulled away, all the Gainesville players crammed to one side and pressed their hands to the window, staring at these people they’d never met before, watching their waves and smiles disappearing into the night.

Anyway, with the economy six feet under and Christmas running on about three and a half reindeer, it’s nice to know that one of the best presents you can give is still absolutely free.

Hope.

Sometimes God just has to shake things up a bit, don’t you agree? The last 7 days  He decided it was my turn. I praise him for it. Even though things seem a bit unnerving, I needed the stretching.

Things at work have been a little bit amped up. Our company won a (semi-) prestigious award . We are one of the top 100 FTD florists in the nation. This is our fourth year. Anyways that leads to a free week trip to some six star resort for the owners. They left yesterday. Whew…I’m glad they got on their way.

My husband and I had to make the horrific decision to put our dog down. We’ve had Simon for about nine years. He was a tiny pup when we got him, but quickly grew into a huge dog. My husband chose to take him for one last romp on the woods and then he put him down. This was hard.

Our oldest daughter Sarah decided to “officially” get married on Sunday…at our home….with three days notice!!!! She and her husband had taken their vows in October 2007, but chose to never make it legal. They decide now was the time. I am very glad, as they are about to have a baby. So with a small group of witnesses, standing on our back deck, with near gale force winds blowing, Sarah and James were married. James’ father is an ordained minister, so he officiated. We completed the scene with flowers, cake, hugs and pictures of course.

Did I mention that James’ father is also battling his third bout with cancer. This time his prospects don’t look as promising. God however still heals today! Two days after the wedding, he has announced he will no longer take treatments. This leaves the doctors prognosis very grim. God however still heals today!!! Please pray. His name is Mike Everson. And please pray for the family.

Also during this week, an acquaintance’s son had been hospitalized again. This time he had sunk into a coma. Though I do not know him well, I felt led to write something to him about God’s love and our choice to accept salvation or not. God had brought to my remembrance of a day where this young man had joined a bunch of us for fun at a local lake. God asked me to remind him of that day. My Pastor and his wife were allowed to visit him, so they read it to him several times over the course of the weeks. Yesterday he came out of the coma, so Pastor decided to read the letter to him. After he read it, the young man said “I remember you reading that to me already”. He had heard even while in the coma!!! And what is really worth exclamation points: this young man has decided to live his life fully to the Lord!!!

The young lady I mentor at the Gospel Rescue Mission also had some special needs this week. She and I meet once a week to pray together, visit, go to lunch or whatever the Lord leads. She is a fantastic young gal, who has overcome a great deal. Her heart is strong toward God. Because of the great strides she has made, I should have expected the huge attack she was under. She is pushing through this. We are still holding on to the Lord through this. Please pray for her. Her name is Brit L.

And in the midst of all this, I am knee deep in tax stuff and wedding planning for daughter, Kendra. She gets married in May.

Today has been my first “down” day..I mean to say…today I slept in. Then I lingered over my coffee and Bible for over an hour. What a luxury!!!

Who knows what the next 7 days will hold?

On a final note: Today when I was driving home from the Mission, I was asking God for a special touch–something to lighten my spirit. Guess what He sent? A man riding a bike, with a beanie and huge earphones and a bright fuchsia blanket wrapped around him like superman’s cape flapping in the wind. Right at that moment!! As I passed this pink caped biker, I looked in my rear view mirror and laughed out loud!!

Thank you Lord for teaching me to look in my rear view mirror of life and laugh out loud!

Isn’t He good!!!

Danger, Danger!!

It is dangerous when one believes in error that they know the Lord.

Look here at the disciples. They had walked with Jesus for three years, and yet they still had very little understanding of who He really was. Jesus was doing his best here to encourage and comfort his disciples because he knew very soon He would be taken away.

And if I go and prepare a place for you,
I will come again and receive you unto myself;
that where I am there ye may be also.
And whither I go ye know,
And the way ye know.

Thomas saith unto him,
Lord we know not whither thou goest;
And how can we know the way?

Oh, poor Thomas, how far from understanding he was.

Jesus sath unto him
I am the way,
the truth and the life:
No man cometh unto the Father but by me.

Jesus is trying desperately to make them understand. I can almost hear him saying, “I am the way! Open your eyes! Open your hearts! Get it! It’s Me, your Saviour, your Father! Please understand this!”

If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also:
And from henceforth ye know him and have seen him.

Philip saith unto him
Lord, shew us the Father, and it sufficeth us.

I can hear the exasperation in Christ’s voice. “Come on Philip! How long will it take for you to get this through your thick skull” It reminds me of when I would scold the girls for not scraping their plates before loading the dishwasher. “How many times do I have to show you? Why don’t you get it? It is so basic!”

Jesus saith unto him,
Have I been so long time with you,

(See I told you, Jesus is getting his patience pushed and the disciples still do not understand.)
and yet hast thou not known me, Philip?
He that hath seen me hath seen the Father;
And how thou then saith, Shew us the Father?

What was it the disciples were lacking? They spent days on end with Jesus. They had heard his teachings and witnessed his miracles. They thought they knew him. They thought they had an intimate relationship with him. They thought they would follow him forever. But soon they would all scatter. What had they missed? Where did they go wrong? And how do we avoid the same danger?
I think I know the answer, but please, if anyone out there has answers, I welcome them!!!

At Midnight

This past weekend a bunch of us from church went camping. We loaded up tents, trailers and cook stoves to head out into the great wilderness (actually it was a close by state park, complete with showers and manicured lawns). Nevertheless we were camping.
The camp was filled with sounds of laughter and the smell of barbecue. We got to know one another better. We got to read God’s Word together. Sunday was somewhat soggy, but Steve’s guitar playing and Nate’s homemade chili kept us all warm. Overall it was a  great weekend.
At one point, during song worship, I left the gathering to visit the ladies room. The group continued to sing. As I walked further away the melody seemed to follow me. I thought about the others in the campground who may be listening. Listening not just to the song, but to all of our activities we had partaken in during the weekend. “ I wonder what they think.” Then I remembered a verse I had read just a few days ago.

And at midnight Paul and Silas prayed, and sang praises unto God:
and the prisoners heard them.
Acts 16:25

These prisoners had no hope. Look around you today. How many do you see hopeless? They are prisoners of this lost and dying world today. Are they hearing you sing his praises? Or are they hearing you grumble and mumble?

God brought me to another verse:
The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me;
Because the Lord hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek;
He hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to them that are bound
Isaiah 61:1

I hope some of our laughter overflowed into other camps. I hope we made someone smile. I hope we helped heal a broken heart. I hope someone heard God’s Word of liberty being proclaimed. I hope some that were in bondage are now free.

Each day is a new opportunity for us to sing his praises for the prisoners to hear.
The midnight hours is upon us. Sing loudly!!
God bless.

This section here tells about the initial days that my husband’s girls came to live with us. (At that time they were my husband’s girls–now they are my daughters.)
Blessing and Responsibility

Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith;
who for the joy that was set before him
endured the cross,  despising the shame,
and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God.
For consider him that endureth such
contradiction of sinners against himself,
lest ye be wearied and faint in your minds.
Hebrews 12:2,3

My pastor is a very wise and discerning man. He always seems to know what concerns are in my heart. He knew I was nervous about bringing new children into our home. He also knew I felt overwhelmed by this task that would take a lifetime. The day Will was to arrive with the girls, Pastor wrapped his arm around my shoulder and encouraged me,

“ You have received an awesome blessing.”
I hadn’t been able to see it from that side. The word ‘responsibility’ loomed so monumental in my mind, I’d forgotten God was blessing me. He was trusting me with three of His most prized possessions. Pastor Wilber didn’t neglect to exhort me on that end of things.  He frequently told me directly or through his sermons,  “God qualifies whom he calls.”  I held onto those words.  I knew that God would sustain me.
I began searching God’s Word for direction and encouragement. I found myself relating to Moses and Gideon. Both of them also felt under qualified when the Lord handed them a job to do.
God commanded Moses to make the voyage back to Egypt and lead the Hebrews from captivity.  This required Moses to return to the region he had fled from years earlier. God was asking him to be a motivational speaker. Moses lacked confidence, so he begged God to send someone else. Seeing beyond Moses’ speech impediment and into his heart, God encourages him.

The Lord said to him [Moses], “Who gave man his mouth?
Who makes him deaf or mute? Who gives him sight or makes him blind?
Is it not I, the Lord?
Now go; I will help you
speak and teach you what to say.”
But Moses said “O Lord, please send someone else to do it.”
Exodus 4:11-13

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Gideon lived in a time when Israel was being bullied by the Midianites. The Lord came to Gideon as he was threshing wheat. He explained to Gideon that he could bring rest back to Israel. Gideon, being of the smallest tribe, felt there was no way he could be a warrior. He could not understand how he could possibly lead this battle against the powerful Midians. He repeatedly questioned God.

The Lord turned to him [Gideon] and said,
“ Go in the strength you have and save Israel out of Midian’s hand.
Am I not sending you?
“But Lord,” Gideon asked, “how can I save Israel?
My clan is the weakest in Mannasseh,
and I am the least in my family.”
Judges 6:14,15
Both men felt God was calling them to a task they knew very little about.  I understood the anxiety they expressed in asking the Lord for a reprieve on their assignments.  God, however, did not give in.  Instead He scolded them by reminding them it was Jehovah, Lord of all creation, who was sending them.
God will stretch you just as far as He can. He will never put you into battle to face it alone. If He is sending you to do a job, and you dedicate your efforts to His glory, you will get it done.
I often think of how Jesus spoke to his disciples, instructing them, “ Let us go over unto the other side of the lake.” (Luke 8:22b) Keep in mind, these were tough men. Some had fished most of their lives. Soon a storm arose and water began pouring into the boat. These well-rehearsed men first responded with the tactics they had depended upon in the past. But when the waters continue to fill the boat, they panicked.  In the frenzy, they forgot the words Jesus spoke. (He had told them they were going to the other side.)
Jesus didn’t say, “Let’s get in the boat and go until the water gets rough.”    No, He let them know they are going to the other side. Jesus knew the boat would make it. He also knew the storm would come to test the faith of the men in the boat.
Jesus is speaking the same words to you today. He won’t leave you drowning in the middle of raging waters. He is right there bolstering your courage, “We’re going to make it to the other side! This storm will not stop us.”

Now faith is the substance of things hoped for,
the evidence of things not yet seen.
Hebrews 11:1

more to follow later

Valentine’s Day
Saturday was Valentine’s Day–or CODE RED day in the floral industry! We prepare as much as we can ahead of time, but still it is usually a madhouse. This year however was a bit less hectic. I suppose the financial crunch we are all feeling has affected people’s pocket money for holidays.
My day was filled with emotion. It started with that huge adrenaline rush we get at major holidays. Then my sis called to deliver the news that our dear friend had passed away. He had been ill, but it was still heartbreaking to hear. Valentine’s day was to be the last day I would be working with one of my co-workers. Her goodbye at the shop was filled with tears. I arrived home somewhat exhausted and sad.
The house was cold and empty. Will had gone hunting for the day and Kendra has driven to Portland to spend the holiday with her fiancée. I cranked up the heat and set about doing my household chores. I was vacuuming when Brandy walked in the door.
“I just came by to wish you a Happy Valentines Day.”
Quite frankly I was tired and didn’t feel much like visiting. I thanked her for coming and gave her a hug. We chatted a few minutes, then her car horn honked.
“Oh, that’s Adam. I’ve gotta go. We have errands. The boys are in the car if you want to go out and see them.”
I followed her out to the car.
MY GRANDBABIES!!!! First I opened the door where Colton was. He is not yet a year old and he is always smiling. I hugged him and kissed his nose. He giggled a bit. As soon as I had opened the door, Alex started calling, “Grandma! Grandma!” He does like attention! Alex is 3 ½ and he has the most beautiful blue eyes I have ever seen. He also happens to have a “cute” little Mohawk hairdo courtesy of his Aunt Sarah. I quickly ran around the car to his side and gave him hugs and kisses too. He was rambling on about what he was eating and tried to share it with me. I then went to the drivers door and gave my son-in-law, Adam a hug and wished him Happy Valentines Day.
Then something wonderful happened. I stood there in the cold looking at my son-in-law confidently behind the wheel of the car, his wife sitting contently beside him and their two healthy beautiful children all warm and strapped snuggly into their car seats and I began to cry. It hit me how blessed I was. It hit me how good this was. This little family who has had more than their share of  struggles were OK. They were more than OK, they were good.
Through my misty eyes, I managed to say, “Thank you for coming by. This was a great valentines present.”  I closed the door (Alex still talking away), I wave goodbye and walked in the house.
God had given me a great gift. He knows just what we need and when we need it!!

Later that evening, Handsome Hubby Will came home and we celebrated the day of love in our own wonderful way! (Can’t write anymore on that–like Will said–that would be considered pornography) He’s such a goof!!

Is not God truly wonderful??!!

I write little blurbs in our church bulletin. I think I’m going to start including them in my blog. This one was for Feb 15th, 2009. Read the rest of this entry »